Beer to a barbecue

 

I’m scared.

And probably not for exactly the reasons you might think (though likely along the same lines that scare you as well).

Let’s start this out with a trip for some groceries.

The world has changed, and in many ways it’s both humorous and frightening.

As individuals, we all have our preferences. You can think about the Coca-Cola or Pepsi debate as probably the best example of where we might all come down on different sides of a choice. That out there, it can extend into the types of vegetables we select, the brands we look for, and all sorts of decisions for which the actual decision has already been made.

Coke isn’t on sale? Don’t care what is on sale. No purchase.

These days though, we can walk in and head to the orange juice.

Normally we have brands… store name, Tropicana, Simply Orange, Minute Maid, Florida’s Natural and more.

Normally we have styles… no pulp, some pulp, lots of pulp, calcium added, low acid and more.

Normally we have sizes… you get the idea, lots of options.

We wander in, grab a Tropicana Original, and meander back out.

Simple.

Not today.

Whatever your preference, if you head out for groceries and meander to the juice section you might feel fortunate to see a gallon of Minute Maid with extra pulp on the shelf. And nothing else.

Some of the dazzling sights out there make sense. Empty shelves where bread or chicken normally are on display. We would have guessed that could be the case.

Some of the sights make no sense. A wide range of jams and jellies available, but an empty row (as a perfectly clean, single file, front to back, empty wedge) where the pineapple preserves would normally be.

We, as a whole, are individuals that are making choices. In some ways we are similar. In many we are very different. And now we are making those choices and living those lives in a very strange and weird world. One where we may or may not understand why we can’t find the orange juice we like, or why a lot of people seem to need pineapple preserves (and only pineapple preserves).

(Let’s leave the grocery store and head to the state capitol buildings.)

I’m not against the protests that have been taking place to reopen businesses and more during these difficult days.

Personally, I tend to be more to the cautious end of the spectrum. I don’t like seeing people gather to protest. I think it’s a mistake. But, I’m not against it… because I try to understand the other side of a situation, and when doing so for the protests the pain and frustrations that could possibly be involved have some reasons.

I know many people that are having troubles.

Troubles with the unemployment process. Troubles with having the doors closed on their small business. Troubles with school being out. Troubles.

If you run a hair salon from home… are an independent contractor that relies on small projects, word of mouth referrals and repeat customers for the next job… design large portions of your life around school schedules and other programs for children… the immediacy and twists taking place provide obstacles and hardships that are likely unfathomable to anyone that isn’t facing the same.

It can be maddening and frustrating, bringing along a desire to get back to normal.

I don’t know if we can though. Not that we ever were.

We’re living in a world where… hopefully… we all understand that normal is a situation term, not an all-encompassing reality. Normal is not perfect. Normal is personal. Normal is timely.

In turn, the same way we might prefer to have a Coke there are some people that don’t, and we need to recognize that many people have uses for pineapple preserves.

I think, by and large in generic ways, we’re seeing that understanding settle in with people. It will be interesting to see if we are, by mass majority, more patient, kind and tolerant of each other as we return to—(ahem)—normal.

And that is where we finally arrive at a little twist to the narrative. Because the other thing I believe we’re all learning is that stupid is stupid, regardless.

(Over to Facebook.)

At the exact same time the protests for a return to work were taking place, someone I know placed a post on social media. He was craving barbecue. But there were problems.

Places that were serving it near him had closed. Seasonal places he loved hadn’t opened.

So, he was making an offer to his friends that cooked. He wanted barbecue. Essentially for anyone that would make the food, he’d bring the beer.

And that is where this entire argument of protesters and stupidity and more collide.

Do you see it?

Do you see where he may be exchanging beer for barbecue at one friend’s house on Tuesday while bringing coffee over for brownies at another friend’s on Wednesday? More so, the tossing of limiting exposure efforts into a that-doesn’t-apply-to-me act based only on self-serving, ignorant entitlement.

If you have some special recipes for pineapple preserves, I’d actually be quite interested to hear about them. If you’re anxious to open the doors on your business and welcome back customers, my thoughts are with you and I send my best. (Stay healthy, stay active, be well.)

If you’re knocking on my door with a six-pack, go home. Today, I’m not interested.

 

If you have any comments or questions, please e-mail me at Bob@inmybackpack.com